About the show

Marriage. Parenthood. Relationships. Family. All parts of day-to-day life, all things easily failed. The hosts of Why Did We Ever Meet, Ashley & Wes Allen, know these things and are willing to share their failures with you.
Why Did We Ever Meet gives you a candid look into "The Allen Club", a family you may already be familiar with due to their involvement in independent film, podcasts, etc. Join them each week (with plenty of interruptions by kids & pets) to find out what blew up in the Allen House & laugh along with them...and at their expense!

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  • Life Is Dope

    November 4th, 2021  |  56 mins 50 secs
    episode 92, family, why did we ever meet

    TW: Discussions on mental health, suicide The purpose of this show was to give you a glimpse into our life and always be open & transparent with what our family is going through. With that spirit in mind, Cash is here to tell you his story about his recent stay in a crisis care unit.

  • Ryan Shelkett (Cross My Heart, Liars Academy)

    October 20th, 2021  |  1 hr 8 mins
    episode 91, family, ryan shelkett, why did we ever meet

    We're very excited to be sharing this episode with everyone. Cross My Heart's emergence in late 90's post-hardcore/emo scene was a part of wave of incredible bands that would shape punk, indie, and hardcore over the next 2 decades. As a part of the powerhouse Deep Elm Records roster, Cross My Heart would carve a path that made them beloved to fans the world over.

  • Bye, Poop

    October 13th, 2021  |  1 hr 19 mins
    episode 90, family, why did we ever meet

    Mom & Dad go deep into the frustrations of raising a teenager and trying not to screw up. We also talk horror movies, Danielson vs. Suzuki, mental health check-ins, overreacting to seasonal allergies, and a buncha other shit. Enjoy!

  • Work, Bitch

    October 6th, 2021  |  1 hr 1 min
    episode 89, family, why did we ever meet

    Mom & Dad are back. Horror movies! Homecoming dances! Free Britney! Mental health checks! It's all here!

  • Jeff Smith (Jeromes Dream)

    September 29th, 2021  |  1 hr 47 mins
    episode 88, family, jeff smith, jeromes dream, why did we ever meet

    Jeromes Dream return serves as a reminder of how much impact that band had on post-hardcore as it stretched the boundaries & perceptions of punk fans. We speak with Jeff Smith about his band's influence/legacy within punk & hardcore and where such intense music is birthed from.

  • Joshua King (Narcissus)

    September 22nd, 2021  |  1 hr 15 mins
    episode 87, family, joshua king, narcissus, why did we ever meet

    A stroll down memory lane this week. Josh & Wes go waaaaay back, having been friends and played shows together since 1999. Josh is a member of beloved and newly reformed metalcore stalwarts Narcissus. Narcissus is headed to Alabama this weekend for a reunion show of monolithic proportions at Furnace Fest.

  • Mean Jesus

    September 15th, 2021  |  1 hr 13 mins
    episode 86, family, mean jesus, why did we ever meet

    This week's guests are John & Keith of the Virginia-based band Mean Jesus. Boasting former members of Converge & Bad Korea, Mean Jesus was born out of the pandemic bringing heartfelt punk rock & melodic hardcore that feels familiar yet fresh. Their new seven-inch will be available for preorder from GGT Records on September 24th.

  • We're All In On All Out (The Ballad Of Effy)

    September 8th, 2021  |  1 hr 25 mins
    all out, episode 85, family, why did we ever meet

    We spent the Labor Day weekend in Chicago watching pro wrestling with our friends... and this show is a tribute to & recap of that weekend. Now, before you turn your nose up, we ask that you please set your preconceived notions aside and join us on this journey. Pro wrestling is a unique, beautiful art form... and we want to tell you how & why it is so special to The Allen Club. We hope you enjoy it.

  • School Daze

    September 1st, 2021  |  55 mins 9 secs
    episode 84, family, why did we ever meet

    First day back to school, first day of work AT school for Ashley...so, you guys get the full scoop. Cash gives a full report. Oh, and we talk about Olde Wrestling's Extravaganza! as well as All Out predictions. The calm before a weekend wrestling storm.

  • You're In A Conservatorship. (Don't) Call Your Dad.

    August 25th, 2021  |  1 hr 9 mins
    episode 83, family, why did we ever meet

    Uh Oh! The Fam is back and we've got a lot to catch up on! We talk about all the exciting and not-so-exciting wrestling that took place last weekend. We also talk movies, specifically Pig & The Green Knight, and Conspiracy Corner is BACK

  • Justin Nottke (Professional Wrestler, Founder-Olde Wrestling)

    August 18th, 2021  |  1 hr 21 mins
    episode 82, family, why did we ever meet

    HUZZAH! This week's guest is Justin Nottke OR as independent wrestling fans know him-Marion Fontaine. In addition to being a professional wrestler, Justin's the founder of the greatest show on earth...Olde Wrestling!

  • Melody Caudill (Career Woman)

    August 11th, 2021  |  51 mins 22 secs
    episode 81, family, why did we ever meet

    This week's guest has the rare distinction of being a 2nd generation artist who's ALSO the daughter of a former guest. At the young age of 17, Melody Caudill's songwriting ability exceeds a level most musicians only hope to achieve and in hearing her talk, it will come as no surprise. Her approach to her music & self-awareness shows through in conversation as well.

  • Brian McTernan (Producer, Be Well, Battery)

    August 4th, 2021  |  1 hr 28 mins
    episode 80, interview, why did we ever meet

    80 episodes! Wow! Important milestone requires an important guest and we have one. Brian McTernan joins us this week. As a musician and producer, Brian has influenced & shaped the punk & hardcore scene. After fronting legendary hardcore band Battery, his career then shifted into production.

  • Arty Shepherd (Errortype:11, Instruction, Saint Vitus Bar)

    July 28th, 2021  |  1 hr 42 mins
    episode 79, family, why did we ever meet

    This falls under the "long time coming" category and it was worth the wait. Arty Shepherd is a name you've heard a million times on WDWEM and with good reason. His bands and songwriting have been a staple in post-hardcore, punk rock, alt rock, and hardcore.

  • Popeye Vogelsang (Farside, Your Favorite Trainwreck)

    July 21st, 2021  |  1 hr 41 mins
    allen club, episode 78, family, interview, popeye vogelsang, why did we ever meet

    What is it like to have made possibly the best album ever? Well, we ask our modest & wonderful guest about this because as a member of Farside, that distinction was thrust upon them & their incredible album "Rigged", whose influence is still being felt today.

  • Back To The Basics (Of Yelling At One Another)

    July 14th, 2021  |  1 hr 22 mins
    episode 77, family, why did we ever meet

    The Family is back on the mic, so you know what that means-lots of yelling at each other and shit talking! Oh, we also discuss the new Black Widow movie, play a round of "We Fuckin?", and Cash closes the show...with a song! YAY